Sankofa Radio Toronto | Love Web
Posted in News | 6th July, 2017
“The men of the city said unto Elisha, behold, I pray thee the situation in this city is pleasant as my lord seeth but the water is naught, and the ground barren. And he said, bring me a new cruse, and put salt therein. And they brought it to him. And he went forth unto the spring of the waters, and cast the salt in there, and he said thus says the lord, I have healed these waters; there shall not be thence anymore death or barren land. So the waters were healed unto this day according to the saying of Elisha which he spake” 2 kings 2: 19-22.
The living condition in Canada is very pleasant and its cities are beautiful and the country is governed by specific laws. However, some of their laws permit all kinds of dubious act, like the law about marriage. One can marry the opposite sex and also permits divorce. The system is so stressful and sometimes unbearable, and if you do not take a firm stand it will swallow you alive. The Canadian system is about profit which is a pure capitalist. You cannot afford to lose, which means one have to work and earn a living. The system is structured in a way that, there are funds (money) you can use and pay back later. And with these kinds of profits, if you do not make a good decision or good use of it, you can incur debt which will take you years to pay. These are some of the factors that complicate the system and make it difficult to coupe’s.
Canadian political and social structure has been structured in such a way that children, women, and old people are highly prioritized. The government and policy makers are so concerned about them that various laws and measures have been set up to protect them. There are rights and responsibilities allocated to the above mentioned groups to facilitate their well being. Children are to be protected by their parents and it is the parent’s responsibilities to provide them with the basic necessities of life to enhance their growth. Whether parents should spank their children is still debatable since the effects go both ways. The law also protects women against abuse in any form and domestic violence. At a certain age in a child’s life, they have the freedom to do whatever they want without parental supervision. As such, many women and children have taken advantage of the system and abusing it. Immigrant women are striving to be “canadianised” neglecting their culture and traditions of their mother Lands. In Ghana women are expected to take care of the household and see to it that things run smoothly. However it is different here in Canada since both parties are expected to work in order to be financially sound. As a result the women start to think that they are equal with the men. This creates a lot of confusion because the men also have been trained to be in control. Men are place at the bottom of the list not because the government does not see the use of them but the government sees them as the pillars of the law.
People are so educated both formally or informally and are aware of their rights and freedom which make decision making easier. The society is so open minded that everything seems ok to them. Consequently the rise of divorce rate, abuse, domestic violence among others is having a toll on the quality of life that we expected to have upon our arrival. We cannot sit here and lie and pretend that there use to be no such thing as divorce in Ghana; there is, but we tackle it differently and it comes in later when noting works. People listen to the advices of their parents, elderly, relatives and friends when situation like this arises but in Canada it’s the other way round. Once the mind is made up, it’s hard for it to be changed. The people of the city told the man of God that the situation of the city is pleasant but the water causes death and barrenness. The man of God healed the waters from death and barrenness. When the famine in Samaria became so severe to the extent that human beings became cannibals by eating themselves, Elisha was then the prophet of the city. And the king said is there any prophet among us while we suffer hunger? Bring me a new cruse and salt, means God always needs a vessel full of his anointing to deliver his people. The situation here in Canada needs men of God with power and wisdom from the most high God. The people reported to the man of God the situation or circumstance they were in. People should trust in the lord and his anointed servants. As a matter of fact, it is very difficult to talk to your church member about divorce once they make up their minds. It is like they go into the marriage with the divorce as their first option. Divorce in Canada or among the Ghanaian community is increasing at a rapid rate because:
- Not trusting God to resolve the problem or his intervention
- Not paying heed to the counsel of the men of God
- It’s easier to divorce and enjoy benefits that come after
- Each one for himself and no control whatsoever from elderly or relatives.
When we talk about the causes pertaining to marital issues what really are the causes of these issues. Is it the men or women? The shifting of blame is a game of couples in marriage. In marriage when trouble arises, we attack the problem not the people or person. Many of the men I know are not fulfilling their marital obligations, which are causing many homes. In a biblical perspective, a man suppose to love his wife and the woman should obey or respect her husband which is submissiveness. Marriage which is the first institution God created is being abused by human beings. Many of the women do not submit to their husbands as commanded by God. Thanks be to God for all our churches around us, one can find his or her home church to attend. Is rather pathetic to witness Christians who are born again, prayerful and spirit filled believers change because of the system here in Canada. Let’s pick the good character, behavior and attitude here and forget the destructive ones which are contrary to our culture. Whether or not you are Christian you should
admit that some of our cultures are best. The following are some of the reasons why many women are not submissive to their husbands;
(a) Because back home in Ghana most of our women were house wives, but here both of them are work and are paying everything together.
(b)Because many men don’t know how to handle the women and show them love and care, for example;
(i) They don’t respect their wives
(ii) They don’t give them the chance to express their views
(iii) When it comes to family business most of the men don’t involve the women
(iv) Their impute during discussions are always neglected
(v) Most women like comparison, comparing their husbands to other men
(vi) Some men emotionally, psychologically, verbally, and physically abuse their wives
(vii) Friends can influence
(viii) In-laws of the women, relatives and family members of the men provoke the women
(ix) Projects they are embarking upon can also cause problems
(x) Many men are cheat, irresponsible, heartless and unconcern about their family up keep
Why are men not fulfilling their obligations as husbands or heads of the family?
- Because most of the women would like an equal control of the marriage instead of the men.
- Because women are empowered by the Canadian system and because of that they take advantage of the men.
- Pressure from family back home, friends and relatives
- Some men are selfish and stingy
- Some women are ungrateful no matter what the men will do, it doesn’t please them.
- Many women will deprive their husbands of sex and use it as a tool to punish them.
- Many women do not respect or regard their husbands.
- Most of the men are very much particular about money and how to get rich instead of showing love to their wives and children.
- Some do not have time to spend on their families (quality time) there is no communication.
As community and church as a whole, if we see someone who is going through divorce, what do we do? There is an adage,” that it takes one to give birth to a child but it takes the whole community to take care of it”. So also we as Ghanaians should be much concern about what goes on in our society, thus marriage problems. There should be seminars organized by opinion leaders, chiefs, churches and associations about marriage.
We are so kind in terms of giving to support funerals, outdooring, weddings and donations to our churches when the need arises. In the same way and manner we should do to stop divorce in our community. When there is a problem in marriage, in other to resolve and bring the couple together, we don’t blame any of them but try to advice them. In fact two masters cannot mind one ship. Marriage should be understandable. The man as ordain by God is the head and the woman to submit to him. The man should be aware that his partner is not a slave.
Many waters cannot quench love. This is why you should always marry whom you love. The foundation of every marriage is very important. Those who are about to marry should be careful and go for Godly counseling.
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